Healing The Trauma
Many of us go through life, allowing people to mistreat us because we don't see that we deserve better. We surround ourselves with other unhealed individuals who project onto us daily. We go above and beyond to make everyone happy and slowly become people pleasers. Eventually, you lose your voice and become codependent. You hold onto relationships tightly without realizing that they are sucking the life out of you. You pretend that you know better, but the reality is that you are losing yourself.
Once upon a time, I would have been happy to accept the bare minimum from a man because it's what I thought I deserved. I would accept the bare minimum from friends and even jobs. I never stood up for myself until I got agitated and would blow up. I've gotten into domestic disputes. I've allowed people to take me out of my character, all for the sake of what I thought was love. How did I get here? The truth is that we all go through challenges in our lives. We all have been betrayed, mistreated, manipulated, taken for granted, lied on, cheated on, and possibly assaulted. How did you heal from the trauma you experienced? Chances are you stuffed it down and pretended like it didn't bother you. You partied away the wound as if it wasn't there. You drank or abused substances to numb the pain. You sought out relationships to keep you distracted. You attracted friends who were just as unhealed so that you could focus on fixing them. We cling to many distractions, and for a minute, it seems as though things are normal in our life, but the fact remains that you are suffering in silence.
You often hear the saying what you resist persists. It's easy to blame everyone else for the drama you entertain, but the reality is that you are the creator of your life. The trauma you ignore from your past continues to show itself in your relationships, friendships, and career. You no longer value yourself. You have no self-respect. You have stopped believing in yourself. You stopped loving yourself. You started believing the lies that you are not worthy. You forgot that you come first and you matter the most. How did I get here? You buried the pain and didn't allow yourself to heal. You focused on all of the wrong things and lost your voice.
You started being afraid to stand in your truth. You were afraid of being alone because you thought happiness was something you found outside yourself. Slowly you allowed the WRONG people into your space, and they added to your beliefs of not feeling good enough. This was my story, and the day I woke up from the nightmare that was called my life, I changed forever. I faced my shadow and saw my past for what it was. Over the years, I allowed the negative self-talk to turn me into someone I was not. I believed the lies that made me feel unworthy and not good enough because of all I had experienced. I didn't understand that many of the things I went through were because of my mindset and the unhealed individuals I allowed into my life.
I became empowered when I decided to change my mindset and release the past. I stopped entertaining toxic people. I stopped trying to please everyone and started focusing on pleasing myself. I stopped trying to be something I wasn't. I allowed myself to live authentically. I allowed myself to feel. I started standing up for myself and removing any one-sided relationships or friendships that didn't serve me. I forgave all the people who hurt me and started praying for them because I realized they were just as hurt as I was.
We are all very special and have many talents, but it's hard to see those things when you hide who you are. I share my stories to encourage you to heal. I share my stories because once upon a time, I also felt unworthy, but the day I started loving myself was the day my life transformed. I am the healthiest I have ever been mentally, spiritually, and physically. I want the same for you because you deserve it. You deserve healthy connections. You deserve to feel loved. You deserve to feel worthy of the very best in life because it is your birthright.
I encourage you to look at where you are in your life and ask yourself:
What trauma do I need to heal from my past?
What am I distracting myself with because I am afraid of the pain?
What relationships or friendships am I holding onto that drain me?
Who am I blaming for the pain I feel, and Why?
Every one of us is a product of our environment. You can be the person who grabs hold of your life right now and steer it in the right direction, or you can continue with the victim mentality that keeps you stagnant. We all have a choice, and although healing is uncomfortable and painful, it's one of the most exhilarating feelings. Allow yourself to heal. Allow yourself to let go. Allow yourself to be authentic. Allow yourself to let go of the dead weight so you can grow.
God (universe) didn't bring us here to suffer. When you change your mindset, you will change your life forever.
I am sending you love and light. If you need help on your journey, click the link to get started. Good luck on your journey.
You are beautiful, and you deserve the best!
Carolyn
Once upon a time, I would have been happy to accept the bare minimum from a man because it's what I thought I deserved. I would accept the bare minimum from friends and even jobs. I never stood up for myself until I got agitated and would blow up. I've gotten into domestic disputes. I've allowed people to take me out of my character, all for the sake of what I thought was love. How did I get here? The truth is that we all go through challenges in our lives. We all have been betrayed, mistreated, manipulated, taken for granted, lied on, cheated on, and possibly assaulted. How did you heal from the trauma you experienced? Chances are you stuffed it down and pretended like it didn't bother you. You partied away the wound as if it wasn't there. You drank or abused substances to numb the pain. You sought out relationships to keep you distracted. You attracted friends who were just as unhealed so that you could focus on fixing them. We cling to many distractions, and for a minute, it seems as though things are normal in our life, but the fact remains that you are suffering in silence.
You often hear the saying what you resist persists. It's easy to blame everyone else for the drama you entertain, but the reality is that you are the creator of your life. The trauma you ignore from your past continues to show itself in your relationships, friendships, and career. You no longer value yourself. You have no self-respect. You have stopped believing in yourself. You stopped loving yourself. You started believing the lies that you are not worthy. You forgot that you come first and you matter the most. How did I get here? You buried the pain and didn't allow yourself to heal. You focused on all of the wrong things and lost your voice.
You started being afraid to stand in your truth. You were afraid of being alone because you thought happiness was something you found outside yourself. Slowly you allowed the WRONG people into your space, and they added to your beliefs of not feeling good enough. This was my story, and the day I woke up from the nightmare that was called my life, I changed forever. I faced my shadow and saw my past for what it was. Over the years, I allowed the negative self-talk to turn me into someone I was not. I believed the lies that made me feel unworthy and not good enough because of all I had experienced. I didn't understand that many of the things I went through were because of my mindset and the unhealed individuals I allowed into my life.
I became empowered when I decided to change my mindset and release the past. I stopped entertaining toxic people. I stopped trying to please everyone and started focusing on pleasing myself. I stopped trying to be something I wasn't. I allowed myself to live authentically. I allowed myself to feel. I started standing up for myself and removing any one-sided relationships or friendships that didn't serve me. I forgave all the people who hurt me and started praying for them because I realized they were just as hurt as I was.
We are all very special and have many talents, but it's hard to see those things when you hide who you are. I share my stories to encourage you to heal. I share my stories because once upon a time, I also felt unworthy, but the day I started loving myself was the day my life transformed. I am the healthiest I have ever been mentally, spiritually, and physically. I want the same for you because you deserve it. You deserve healthy connections. You deserve to feel loved. You deserve to feel worthy of the very best in life because it is your birthright.
I encourage you to look at where you are in your life and ask yourself:
What trauma do I need to heal from my past?
What am I distracting myself with because I am afraid of the pain?
What relationships or friendships am I holding onto that drain me?
Who am I blaming for the pain I feel, and Why?
Every one of us is a product of our environment. You can be the person who grabs hold of your life right now and steer it in the right direction, or you can continue with the victim mentality that keeps you stagnant. We all have a choice, and although healing is uncomfortable and painful, it's one of the most exhilarating feelings. Allow yourself to heal. Allow yourself to let go. Allow yourself to be authentic. Allow yourself to let go of the dead weight so you can grow.
God (universe) didn't bring us here to suffer. When you change your mindset, you will change your life forever.
I am sending you love and light. If you need help on your journey, click the link to get started. Good luck on your journey.
You are beautiful, and you deserve the best!
Carolyn