Living Authentically

Today I woke up feeling pretty great! When I typically wake up, my mind immediately goes into everything I need to do for the day. Today was different because, over the past few weeks, I have been switching up my routine. I have been practicing self-love and mediation, which has placed me in a peaceful state of mind. I am not going to lie to you. It was not an easy process. I had to learn some truths about myself and dig deep.

We get so consumed with everyday life that we never check in with our mental health. We allow work, friendships, relationships, and everything else to distract us from what is essential. Do not push this off any longer. I know you feel that something isn't going quite right in your life. You question unhealthy relationships and your inability to share your emotions with people around you. You use tactics to get what you want as long as it doesn't hurt anyone, but who are we kidding? We know something in our life isn't quite as we would like it. The reality is that you are missing YOU. You got lost in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. You picked up bad habits that didn't allow you to be YOU. Now you are living in a world of lack because you are afraid to be authentic. How can you be happy when you are not true to yourself? 

When we don't speak up for ourselves and allow people to treat us like we don't matter, that can affect our mental health. We are setting the tone for everyone who comes in contact with us to believe we don't matter. Do you know your worth? If you do, then start ACTING like it. 

What are the patterns?

• Being afraid to say "No."
• Manipulation to get what you want.
• Never being there for a friend but always want someone to be there for you.
• Clingyness
• Afraid of being alone.
• Breadcrumbing
• Gaslighting people to get what you want. 
• Afraid to express your feelings.
• Too friendly, over compensation
• Overly compliment people
• Lack of confidence
• Insecurity and Jealousy
• Overindulgence in substances (Alcohol, Drugs)
• Addiction
• Abandoment Issues
• Fear of Rejection
• Etc. this list can go on and on.

When you get to know yourself, you begin to build confidence in yourself that anyone can feel when you walk into a room. You will start to realize that many of the mistakes you made in your life were because YOU choose to turn a blind eye to all of the red flags. The red flags in that job interview, your relationship, that housing contract you signed, and the friend who only calls to complain about their problems. You will open your eyes and see that if you change your mindset, all things in your life will begin to transform for the greater. Why is it so hard for us to be OURSELVES? The answer is childhood. You probably spent most of your childhood being told not to speak up. Stop crying! Stop being so soft! Stop being overly emotional! Stop dancing and sit down! Stop! Stop! Stop! All of this negativity was learned at a young age, and now it shows up in your life. You can't run from the past. It would help if you healed these lies and any childhood traumas so you can live authentically. Be YOU and not what someone expected you to be at that time because they didn't understand how to take care of you. You are not your past. 

If you are struggling with unhealthy relationships and you seek to change. 

Email me at evolvewithunique@gmail.com and allow me to help you along your journey. Be blessed, and good luck on this journey for life.