My Ideal Husband And Partner In Crime

I was sitting on the veranda listening to the sounds around me, and I heard God ask me, what do you consider an ideal husband? I laughed because I wouldn't know how to answer if you had asked me this about a year ago. Today, I can honestly describe the type of partner I seek because I have become that partner.

Many of us go through life normalizing unhealthy relationships because it was what we grew up around, and many of our role models had very toxic relationships. I never understood that until I got tired of constantly attracting unhealthy partners. I started questioning things in my life and asked myself why I was drawn to such toxic individuals, but the reality was that I had become toxic. You are what you attract. At that moment, I knew I had to heal from my childhood trauma and any negative experiences I had over the years. I wanted to experience true unconditional love because I somehow believed love was pain, and that's far from the truth!

Love is not pain, but people live their lives unaware of who they are and what they want. People live their lives putting everyone ahead of their needs and silencing their voices to fit in. People settle for relationships for lust or to feel accepted, and I am not interested in doing either. So when I heard God ask me, what do you consider an ideal husband?

My response:

My ideal husband will love me unconditionally. He will support me as much as I support him. We will have an equal give-and-take relationship where we feel comfortable sharing the most intimate parts of ourselves without fear.

My ideal husband will know my worth, value me, and respect me as I do him. He will protect me and make me feel secure. We will have each other's back and effectively communicate when issues arise because we both know that life isn't perfect.

My ideal husband will be open and vulnerable. He will trust me with his being because he knows I would never do anything to make him feel judged or ashamed. We will be best friends conquering the world together and trusting one another wholeheartedly.

My ideal husband will never judge me or make me feel less than. He will honor our partnership and always speak his truth even when he makes mistakes because he understands that we are not perfect.

My ideal husband will know himself and be secure in his beliefs. He will value his mind, body, and soul because he understands the importance of that to have healthy relationships.

My ideal husband will be confident in himself and his decisions. I will trust him to make decisions that are in the family's best interest and trust that he will always communicate that decision with me because we are partners.

My ideal husband will not try to control or talk down to me because he is secure in knowing he can trust me wholeheartedly. He will respect my authenticity because he is just as authentic. He will cheer me on and allow me to be myself just as I do him.

My ideal husband will be playful and lighthearted. He will know how to go with the flow and enjoy life. He will know how to express his thoughts and feelings even during high stress.

My ideal husband will want to grow with me. He will want to find healthy ways to overcome challenges and obstacles together. He will never take his frustrations out on me because he has learned to ground himself or is willing to learn.

My ideal husband will be romantic and thoughtful. He will show me in his actions that he enjoys being in my presence as I do with him. He will be sensual and affectionate. He will be passionate about our connection and open to endless possibilities together.

My ideal husband will be my other half.

It took me many years to understand what I wanted in a partner. I had to become that partner and come to terms with one important thing. Love is not pain. Love is beautiful, and when you find the right partner, it can grow and transform into something even more beautiful.

No relationship is perfect, but when you have the right partner in your life, you won't have to question your happiness.

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Love and Light, Carolyn Collins 🧿