Taking Accountability

For so long, I have been looking for answers in all the wrong places. I began isolating myself from others back in May of 2021 to gain clarity on my life. During this time, I have had to overcome many challenging obstacles on my own. I have had to overcome challenges before, but this time was different because instead of running to friends seeking answers, I decided to find the answers within. I started to peel layers of my life apart so I could dissect how I got here. I became more aware of who I am and why life played out the way it did. I always blamed everyone around me for why things happened the way they did. I never took accountability for the role I played in my problems. The day I dropped my ego was the day my life changed for the better! 

Every toxic relationship I have been in, and every job that took advantage of my skills was no one's fault but my own. I set the tone for every relationship I have come in contact with and created these circumstances because I lacked self-love and self-acceptance. I was so busy blaming everyone else that not once did I look within to see what role I played. The funny thing is I have always seen the red flags, but I choose to ignore them because I wanted those opportunities so badly. God (Universe) has a funny way of showing us what is for us and what is not. I always heard the saying that, "Rejection is God's protection." I never understood what that meant until now.

As you begin your journey to self-awareness and start becoming in tune with yourself, it will be easier for you to be guided by your highest self (intuition). Our highest self is always nudging us to go in the right direction, but we become so distracted by life and rationalization that we ignore it. Listen to that gut feeling you are having! The discernment you get in your gut is the voice of reason that you need from your higher power. Gut intuition should not be confused with the noise in your head because that will lead you based on emotion rather than reality. Take a moment and write down instances of when you followed your gut, when you were right and when you were wrong. Look at why you made these decisions and keep moving towards spiritual growth.

Every decision we make in life is a choice we decide to make. You can't continue to blame other people for your issues because you chose to entertain and keep those circumstances in your life. When we can start taking accountability for our part in these problems, that's when our life will begin to transform.

For Example:

The Blame:
I don't like how my friends treat me because they are never available, and they only call me when they want to vent.

Accountability:
I am going to set boundaries and not allow people only to call me to vent. I am going to set the tone for the relationships I want in my life.

The Blame:
I can't believe he cheated on me, and I did everything to cater to his needs.

Accountability:
I will start taking things slowly so that I can get to know someone for who they are. I will not put my all into a "situationship" expecting to get the same in return. I will no longer ignore the red flags.

We are the creators of our universe. We need to stop playing the victim and understand that we teach people how to treat us. I don't regret anything that has happened to me in my life because it has given me the courage to live authentically. I know what I deserve, and I have begun to set the tone for relationships I want moving forward. To attract the life we want, we have to start leading by example. Are you ready?

Do not allow the ego to control your life anymore. We are not perfect, and we all make mistakes. Do not allow your past mistakes or present to define who you are as an individual.
"Your actions define your character, your words define your wisdom, but your treatment of others defines REAL you."

― Mayur Ramgir

If you are struggling with self-awareness, self-acceptance, or toxic cycles. Please email me at evolvewithunique@gmail.com and allow me to help you along your journey. Be blessed, and good luck on this journey for life.

Article By: Carolyn Collins
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