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Self-sabotage can be seen as a pattern of thoughts and behaviors you engage in, often without even knowing it, that creates obstacles to achieving your goals. A few signs you’re self-sabotaging: Procrastination Avoiding responsibilities, even if it’s because you “forget” Breaking promises or not following through on commitments Lack of preparation Misalignment between your desires and actions Showing up late to important appointments or meetings Substance use Giving up when things get more difficult There are many simple ways to break out of the pattern of self-sabotage, although it often requires consistent practice and effort. 1. Identify and understand the...

It's funny how many of us look at people and judge the type of person we think they are without taking the time to get to know them. I have done this for most of my life, and people have done it to me. I had the same routine: wake up, shower, get ready for work, eat, work, come home, hang out with friends or my man, shower, sleep, and do it all over again. People would look at me and think I had it together, but the reality was I was falling apart inside. Most days, I felt like...

  It’s undeniable we all make mistakes. It’s in our nature as humans to fail, whether in our work environment, family life, or relationships. We are all doomed to disappoint ourselves at some point, but that doesn’t mean we must succumb to self-deprecation. Living with a mistake is complex, and learning to forgive yourself afterward is even more challenging. However, if you continue to let your messes define instead of better you, then you’ll only be making your life more troublesome than it would be otherwise. Instead, reflect on why you did what you did. There’s always a reason behind...

My life has changed drastically within the past year. You see, I tended to overthink and worry about the future. I never realized how much my thinking was holding me back in my life. We all tend to become our own worst enemies. We replay adverse events in our minds over and over again. We hold onto grudges and never forgive those who hurt us. We become cold because we've been hurt too many times before, so we assume everyone is out to get us. Over the years, I slowly started becoming someone who felt unworthy of having healthy connections....

For so long, I have been looking for answers in all the wrong places. I began isolating myself from others back in May of 2021 to gain clarity on my life. During this time, I have had to overcome many challenging obstacles on my own. I have had to overcome challenges before, but this time was different because instead of running to friends seeking answers, I decided to find the answers within. I started to peel layers of my life apart so I could dissect how I got here. I became more aware of who I am and why life...