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What is the Gut Instinct? Your gut instinct is the physical reaction you have to the world around and inside of you. When you experience an overwhelming “gut feeling,” your body is carrying out a primal response to subconscious information. The ultimate purpose of your gut instinct is to protect you. As your gut instinct is the most ancient and primal “sixth sense” you have, it is the one you can rely upon the most. One example of your gut instinct in action would be deciding to spontaneously avoid walking down a road at night because something “feels off.” That...

Many of us go through life, allowing people to mistreat us because we don't see that we deserve better. We surround ourselves with other unhealed individuals who project onto us daily. We go above and beyond to make everyone happy and slowly become people pleasers. Eventually, you lose your voice and become codependent. You hold onto relationships tightly without realizing that they are sucking the life out of you. You pretend that you know better, but the reality is that you are losing yourself. Once upon a time, I would have been happy to accept the bare minimum from a...

Self-sabotage can be seen as a pattern of thoughts and behaviors you engage in, often without even knowing it, that creates obstacles to achieving your goals. A few signs you’re self-sabotaging: Procrastination Avoiding responsibilities, even if it’s because you “forget” Breaking promises or not following through on commitments Lack of preparation Misalignment between your desires and actions Showing up late to important appointments or meetings Substance use Giving up when things get more difficult There are many simple ways to break out of the pattern of self-sabotage, although it often requires consistent practice and effort. 1. Identify and understand the...

It's funny how many of us look at people and judge the type of person we think they are without taking the time to get to know them. I have done this for most of my life, and people have done it to me. I had the same routine: wake up, shower, get ready for work, eat, work, come home, hang out with friends or my man, shower, sleep, and do it all over again. People would look at me and think I had it together, but the reality was I was falling apart inside. Most days, I felt like...

  It’s undeniable we all make mistakes. It’s in our nature as humans to fail, whether in our work environment, family life, or relationships. We are all doomed to disappoint ourselves at some point, but that doesn’t mean we must succumb to self-deprecation. Living with a mistake is complex, and learning to forgive yourself afterward is even more challenging. However, if you continue to let your messes define instead of better you, then you’ll only be making your life more troublesome than it would be otherwise. Instead, reflect on why you did what you did. There’s always a reason behind...